by Shari DeGraff Stewart
A woman wrote to me, expressing embarrassment about the extent of the anger she was feeling over her infertility experience.
Infertility is a fight, and how can you fight without anger?
Anger is an important and normal emotion indicating, “something is not right.” Anger is a signal for change and action. Every infertile woman describes this experience as a “fight” and anger is a powerful emotion that gives us strength for fighting.
The women I see who most successfully navigate through infertility are those who can express both their grief and their anger. Crying will give you some relief and can leave you feeling calmer. Anger will give you energy. Both are helpful.
Appreciate the rightness and necessity of anger and allow it to propel you forward past barriers and pain. The best use of anger is to bring about changes within yourself: what you will do, what you will choose, what you will walk away from. Be angry. Be kind and respectful in your words or actions to others.
Adapted from an article with permission at http://www.stewartinstitute.com/qa.asp?qaid=9
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